If you have no visible scars and yet you feel pain, you might be in danger of being emotionally abused. what makes emotional abuse hard to pinpoint is the fact that we often justify and suppress our emotions, especially in dysfunctional relationships. Victims may not even realize they are already being abused; in fact, they may even perceive abusive actions as normal behaviour. "Emotional abuse is an attempt to influence, manipulate and control someone." when your partner has excessive demands, punishes you for your normal behaviour( punish here is not a physical but words that will hurt you) , discourages your expressions of attachment( love or self respect) and with-holds affections or care, he/she is emotionally abusing you. Instead of a healthy amount of self-assertion, an abusive person resorts to aggression to meet his needs.
This happenned to me. in my case....he is good-looking, loyal, and he loves me. He captivates everyone, the same way he won me over. In the eyes of man, we're the couple to beat yet somehow I don't feel quite perfect. This was how i felt. to everyone else, my ex was a prince charming personified. But beneath his perfect smile and gentlemanly gestures lies something else: A tendency to make unreasonable demands and threats. " he always asks me to tell him what i was doing and where i was going. I felt i had to report every little thing, and if i didn't , he'd get extremely upset." He constantly made me feel that i was not enough.
I believe love should not hurt. we are familiar with physical or verbal abuse. "Emotional abuse is harder to detect though it can be just as detrimental-- if not more so. Physical abuse entails actual contact such as hitting or even rape. it is more obvious kind of aggression, which often leaves visible marks. verbal abuse makes use of peircing words including harsh criticism, blatant insults and sarcasm to wound others. most of the time, there are elements of emotional blackmail in physical and verbal abuse. emotions are vital part of our being- it bridges the mind, body and spirit and is key to anykind of recovery. Thus, there is no such thing as "just" being emotionally abused...in fact, this form is underneath all the other forms--may it be verbal or physical. the most painful aspect of being physically, verbally or sexually taken advantage of is the factthat someone you love and trust has hurt your feelings. It is traumatic, to say the least.